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Testimonial - Latin America - 5
“When I found out it had been a month. I didn’t want to do all the tests, especially at the beginning, and I wasn’t feeling bad. Then I started to get worried because usually my period is three days early, and then the month had passed and it still didn’t come, and that was when I started to take things, cinnamon, rue, and it never came. A week later, a chemist where I am doing my social service told me to go get a pregnancy test. I did the test and it was positive, and I went crazy thinking about how my mother would react.
Though she is older now, after what she went through with my father, my mother doesn’t want us to live a life like she did. He left her when she was young.
Then time kept passing and I was going mad. All that was left was to kill myself. But my biggest fear was still my mother. The boy looked for me and I didn’t want to see him. I completely refused to see him and I went to see a psychologist at my school and she saw me crying and she said my feelings were normal and told me there was a solution.
So I came to see one of the doctors that asked me if the boy knew what was happening to me and I told her that he didn’t and that I didn’t want him to find out. I didn’t want him to know because I didn’t want him to force me to have the child and she gave me an appointment to come back to do it. The problem was I couldn’t find that money, I didn’t know anyone who could lend me the money and I let time go by.
He found me and I told him… he was drunk. He said he didn’t care if I was pregnant, because if I was pregnant that was my problem. And I started crying desperately and I told him that I had thought he was going to help me out because of everything we’d been through, and whether or not he wanted to acknowledge it, it was his child.
Then I got angry and told him that if I had the baby I didn’t want him to come see it and I didn’t want him to come looking for me. I told him that was the last time we were to see each other and that I didn’t know him anymore. When I turned around to go back into my house he grabbed my arm and told me to wait. I said I didn’t want to talk to him and then he slapped me. He slapped me three times. I finally said, “Thanks for slapping me, because not even my father hit me, ever. What you just did makes me realize how horrible you are, I don’t want to ever see you again.”
I don’t blame him for what happened to me, but my mother sent me to school to have a better future… and she would say that it wasn’t for me to get to pregnant. I’m never going to tell her, its something I will take to the grave.
It was the best decision for me. I feel good that I can continue with my normal life, but with more care…it won’t happen as easily next time because I had sex with him for love. Now I’ll pay attention to the type of people I am with, because he broke my heart and I don’t know if I can trust men.”
By: A post abortion care client
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Testimonial - Latin America - 4“I feel very calm and relieved about my decision because I think that if I had brought those children into the world, I would have had four children and I wouldn’t be able to educate those children. I think my commitment to bring a child into the world is to give it a healthy life, a quality of...
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Testimonial - Latin America - 3[If I met a woman like me] “I would give her a hug and I would tell her that life is the most valuable thing that a woman has and it’s her choice and that whatever anyone tells her - her parents, her boyfriend, her doctor, God, whoever - her decision is hers alone. I think I’ve saved myself...
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Testimonial - Latin America - 2“I don’t want to get pregnant any more. I still regret that I’ve always had so many children, one after another, so many. You have to have children, but children can be a lot of money. If they had told me about [contraception] then I wouldn’t have had that many. But no one told me and I’ve had...
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Testimonial - Latin America - 1“You don’t have to feel guilty, I don’t… Sometimes I watch television and they talk about these women and say that they are murderers and all that. It’s not about killing, but thinking about a quality of life that you can give another person. It’s about a decision that you are going to make with...
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Testimonial - Ireland - 2“Our GP is an Indian and a family friend. If my parents found out life would become a nightmare for me. It’s not that my family is against abortion. Actually, if they knew about my situation they would insist on an abortion anyway. What they are against is sex outside of marriage and in their...
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Testimonial - Ireland - 1“I went to my GP thinking I would get every bit of support I needed in getting referred for an abortion. After all, the GP knew of my situation and the terrible strain I am under as a result of my marriage being on the rocks. I’ve had lots of treatment for my nerves. But I couldn’t believe his...
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Testimonial - Asia - 2“In rural areas there is no planning to have children or not. They accept every pregnancy as their fate. Mostly I have seen that women are not happy after third or fourth pregnancy. Due to malnutrition women become weak and when they become pregnant their responsibilities become double, she has...
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Testimonial - Asia - 1“What have we become? Just to remain comfortable within safe legal and religious bounds, we outright rejected the idea and refused to provide the service. Women around us have to get [abortions] done by illicit providers and perish. They didn't even bother to consult us knowing what our advice...
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Testimonial - Africa - 3“I know that it is illegal but consider yourself in my shoes. How I am going to support my already big family and look at my wife. Will she survive another pregnancy? She already looks torn down. I will do anything to have this pregnancy terminated.”
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Testimonial - Africa - 2“When abortion is legalised it would be better because you will know that you have gone to a safe place where you cannot risk your life. Now people do it illegally and because people will be after money and take them to a place where it is not good, they end up losing their lives. So I think it...
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Testimonial - Africa - 1“If we don’t care about someone who has a problem, she will never turn to us afterwards. So we should take care of her, especially those who have a problem of abortion. If we refuse to take care of her, she’ll go anywhere. Here, we have training and we can teach them family planning. People who...
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